Unconsciously, we relive our mother’s anxiety. We repeat our father’s disappointments. We replicate the failed relationships of our parents or grandparents.

Just as we inherit our eye color and blood type, we also inherit the residue from traumatic events that have taken place in our family. While our physical traits are easily discernible, this emotional legacy is often hidden from us. Anxiety, fear, financial worries, depression, illness and unhappy relationships can all be forms of our unconscious inheritance.

Unresolved traumas, some going back two or three generations, can ensnare us in feelings and situations that don’t even belong to us. They can forge a blueprint for our life, and can even pass onto our children. It doesn’t have to continue. It can end here. Start by answering these questions.

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Screen Shot 2014-10-10 at 8.58.36 PMA Worried Mother’s Guide to Helping Her Troubled Son

The other day, a woman asked whether she should allow her son to visit with his father. “His father always promises to spend time with him but never shows up. Should I continue to let my son see him?” Without question, the answer is yes. A son who is disconnected from his father is more likely to struggle in life. A son who is close to his father—even if his father is inconsistent—is more likely to shine. Read more